I wonder… do kids ever play any of those classic, childhood games anymore? I’m not talking about early Atari titles like Space Invaders, Pac-man and Pong. I mean good, old-fashioned, real-world, non-virtual, analog pastimes like Cops and Robbers, Cowboys and Indians, Capture the Flag and Hide and Go Seek. Probably not so much anymore. I guess those humble pastimes have gone the way of the dinosaur. Perhaps one day, after a catastrophic electromagnetic pulse in the lower atmosphere erases all digitally stored data, our children will adjourn to The Great American Backyard and be forced to rely upon their imaginations for entertainment. But don’t hold your breath.
Recently I was talking to a man about another old-fashioned game, but this is one enjoyed most often by grown-ups. It’s called Playing God. Have you ever had the pleasure? This whole concept of controlling circumstances – people, our spouses, our children, the world around us, outcomes – is a natural part of being human. In one way or another, all of us – at least from time to time – become players.
The game has a few variations. We might assume a God-like role for ourselves, or we can treat another mortal, human being as though they are the All-Powerful One. Or we might take on the role of intermediary or gatekeeper between God and someone else. I see all variations very frequently.
For example, I’ll hear one of my clients or students say: “I’ve got a number of clients who need to develop a strategic plan. They need to meet the author of this article or the person in the video and hear that message. How can we make that happen?”
And I’ll say, “Well, how do you normally connect with your clients?”
They’ll respond with whatever their normal methodologies are – usually a phone call or email. And nearly always they’ll say, “Well, not all of my clients are going to be interested in that message. I need to look through my database and cherry pick those who can appreciate it and understand it.”
Next, a conversation ensues about how to go about determining who gets the information and who doesn’t. Most people will contrive a variety of reasons to inhibit access to the information. And so while they are sitting around trying to figure out who not to include, they don’t realize that what they’re doing, in effect, is playing God. They presume that they know what is in the hearts and the minds of their clients, which is ludicrous. In fact, most of us have a hard enough time discovering what’s in our own heart and mind and what to do about it. A database of eighteen thousand names and they propose to make an educated, dependable analysis of each unique individual’s receptivity? Nonsense! Consider this: even if you were accurate in assessing the wants, needs and interests of your clients, prospective clients and colleagues YESTERDAY, they could be in a very different set of circumstances and state of mind NOW!
So what I suggest instead is this: expose the message to everybody. That’s right. Make it available to everyone. Don’t be exclusive with it. Be inclusive with it. Don’t set yourself up as the middleman or intermediary. Don’t play… you-know-who.
If your business is giving tax advice and there’s a change in the tax law and you have a dynamic solution that you’re absolutely certain will affect only 27 percent of your database, there’s no harm in conveying that message to 100 percent of your database. Why? Because somewhere in the percentage that you were convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt did not need the information, there almost assuredly is somebody who does, or someone who is connected to somebody else who needs that information. Or is connected to someone who is connected to someone who is connected to… you guessed it… someone who needs that information.
Professionals are always strategizing how to acquire more referrals to get new business. Imagine for a moment that the message regarding the new tax law (and your dynamic solution) is blasted out to every name in the database. If the message is relevant to a recipient, wonderful. Someone else might read that message and say, “Well, this doesn’t personally affect me, but I think this would help my brother-in-law,” or “This would affect my father’s business,” or “I’m going to forward this message to my boss because she might benefit.”
So now you have a new, potential client reading the information. She’s impressed by it and says, “Hey, I’m not getting this kind of help from my current accountant or from my lawyer or from my financial advisor. I’m going to give this new person a call and see if he can address my needs that others are neglecting or are unaware of.” Is this making more sense now?
Whenever we put ourselves in a position of playing intermediary and pretending like we know what is in the hearts and minds of other people, we’re not only self-limiting our own success, but we’re also hindering the people that we claim we want to help.
And, you know, at the end of the day, the most effective way for us to receive divine inspiration, divine guidance and true wisdom that really resonates at the core of who we are is to go directly to Divine Source and get that information for ourselves. We can use articles, videos, audios, books and systems that are created by others as tools to help us gain clarity, but when all is said and done, the very best guidance we can receive is that which we actively seek out and receive directly from God (Divine Source).
Playing God, or all wise all-knowing intermediary, limits opportunities and solutions for your clients and those connected to them. Just as importantly, such behavior is actually self-limiting. Such behavior limits and separates you from the abundance of opportunities that will increase your ability to thrive. Plus, the more you try to play God, the more stress, anxiety and frustration you create for yourself. Playing God actually distances you from more peace of mind.
Right now, somebody connected to you, either directly or indirectly, is seeking exactly the kind of expertise that you and/or one of your colleagues possess. If you would only reach out to them and let them know you can help, a lot more people could benefit from your wisdom and expertise and you would create more prosperity for yourself and others. All you have to do is stop “playing God” and educate everyone; enable each individual to make his or her own decision on what to do with the information you provide.